It can often be confusing when a couple is dealing with invitations. This week I’ll be giving you some suggestions that should make dealing with inviations a bit easier. Since invitation etiquette is rather complicated, I won’t be including it here. However, I may do future articles on the subject and will include net link resources on etiquette in this article. You’ll also find general guidelines as well as ideas and suggestions in this article.
Outer and Inner Envelopes
The majority of invitations you will find include both outer and inner envelopes. These envelopes serve a function. The outer envelope is used for the name and address of the guest/s. The title that you use for a guest will depend upon the formality of your wedding. For example: Mr. and Mrs. Millhouse is a more formal option than Jane and John Millhouse would be. On the inner envelope you will include the names of the guest/s that you are inviting. For a more formal affair, Jane and John Millhouse would be appropriate. For an informal affair, Jane and John will be fine. Once again, what you use will depend upon the formality of the wedding. The inner envelope is intended to show who specifically is invited as a guest to your wedding and should include, at the least, the first names of anyone you are inviting. An example of this would be an outer envelope addressing the “The Millhouse family” and an inner envelope clarifying exactly who in the Millhouse family is invited (such as “John, Jane, Michael and Lisa”). As a final suggestion, please don’t forget to include your return address on the outer envelope. This insures that you’ll know immediately if any problems occur with the mailing of the invitations
What information to include
On your actual invitation, you will need to include quite a bit of information. You will need to include: Your name, your fiance’s name, the time, the date, the place including name and address. You may also include the name of your parents and/or your fiance’s parents. I suggest using both if you go this route so that there is less chance of hurt feelings. Finally, you may also include information on your reception such as “reception immediately following ceremony” or “reception to occur at 4:00″.
When to mail invitations
My personal opinion is that it depends entirely upon your circumstances. The general rule of thumb is to mail out invitations 4-6 weeks prior to the ceremony. However, if your circumstances dictate that they should be sent out earlier, I recommend 6-8 weeks. A few circumstances that come to mind are: majority of guests are from out-of town or abroad, you have chosen to hold your ceremony on a holiday or if you have an “A” list and “B”list.
Tips and Suggestions
- Mail an invitation to yourself before you mail it to anyone else to insure no problems.
- Get an invitation weighed at your post office to insure proper postage.
- Send invites out no later than 8 weeks and no earlier than 4 weeks prior to ceremony.
- Call the post office if a zip code is unknown.
- Send extra invites to your family and your fiance’s.
- Order an extra 25 invitations…just in case.
- Keep an extra invitation or two for yourself (memory books and so on)